Love Letter to Self

The Power of Self-Love: Reconnecting with Your True Essence In this episode, Patricia dives deep into the transformative power of self-love and shares how she understands it to be the greatest foundation to build a fulfilled happy life.

Patricia starts by reflecting on the heartfelt Rumi quote, "Why are you knocking at every other door? Go, knock at the door of your own heart," and then shares her journey of when she decided to knock on the door of her own heart, developing and practicing self-love. She explores why society often labels self-love as selfish and how she believes this idea is fundamentally flawed.

Patricia shares the backstory behind the writing of her poetic story "Love Letter to Self," written during the isolation of Covid-19, and how the act of buying herself flowers became a powerful symbol of worthiness through the practice of self-love. Through this poem and her journey, she discusses how shifting from external validation to internal self-respect has helped her grow in profound ways. Plus, she reveals how Positive Intelligence and mental fitness, especially through the practice of empathy, can rebuild the connection with our true selves.

Patricia also shares her learnings around “ego” from the Brahma Kumaris, World Spiritual University and how embracing self-love, not as ego but as a life-enhancing practice, can empower you to make healthier choices, set healthy boundaries, and build resilience.

She explores the importance of self-compassion, especially when dealing with toxic relationships, and shares how understanding the difference between ego-driven love and self-value and respect can shape a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-love is NOT selfish; it’s an essential act of self-preservation.

• Recognising the inner "Pleaser" saboteur programme and learning to manage it is key to healthy self-love.

• Mental fitness and empathy help us tap into our “Sage powers” and reconnect with our true essence.

• Understanding the difference between self-love and ego can help you build a foundation of unconditional self-compassion.

• Real life transformations happen when you start with the powerful practice of self-awareness, self-appreciation and acceptance. In this episode Patricia explores;

• Why we’re conditioned to believe self-love is selfish

• The importance of understanding self-love beyond ego and vanity

• A glimpse into her personal transformation

• How the "Love Letter to Self" poem was created and its healing power

• The role of Positive Intelligence in overcoming self-sabotage

• Learning how to embrace your unique essence and start your self-love journey today Resources Mentioned:

• Miley Cyrus’ song “Flowers” (Embracing self-love through song lyrics)

• Wayne Dyer's philosophy on self-worth and loneliness. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with”.

• Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116 and its inspiring relevance to Love Letter to Self

• Positive Intelligence – A book by Shirzad Chamine (Building mental fitness with

Sage love to overcome our self-sabotaging saboteur voices) Remember: "When you get to understand, know and love yourself, you will never be alone."

Actionable Tips:

1. Reflect on three qualities you love about yourself and their positive impact on your life.

2. Practice self-compassion by becoming of and addressing your internal saboteurs voices with empathy.

Next week teaser:

Join Patricia next week with her mindful poetic story called “The beautiful young girl in me”, when she dives deeper into the Pleaser saboteur and shares how reconnecting with her younger, childhood, self enhanced and deepened her practice of self-love,

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