Mindful Poetic Stories Podcast

Real Friends

In this deeply personal and reflective episode, Patricia explores the profound, complex, and transformative nature of friendship, how it shapes us, how it can hurt us, and how, ultimately, it can lead us back to ourselves.
Through heartfelt stories from her childhood in the Irish countryside to her adult years navigating emotional growth, boundaries, heartbreak, and healing, Patricia shares how her friendships have mirrored her inner journey, from people-pleasing and pain to empowerment and self-love.
Whether you’ve held on to lifelong friends, outgrown connections, or felt the sting of toxic dynamics, this episode is a reminder that every relationship can teach us something, and the most important friendship is the one you have with yourself.
________________________________________
In This Episode, You’ll Hear:
How growing up without a “best friend” shaped Patricia’s understanding of friendship
The joy of childhood bonds and the realisation of unspoken connections
How past friendships influence our current relationships & beliefs
The grief of being left behind in friendships, and the guilt of letting go
The impact of toxic friendship dynamics and how they keep us small
How people-pleasing shows up in friendships, and how to reclaim your worth
What Schadenfreude and Freudenfreude reveal about true support
Why boundaries are key for emotional wellbeing
The meaning of Anam Cara, soul friendships, and connecting with your own soul
________________________________________
Takeaways:
Friendship doesn’t always look how we expect, but it’s about how it feels.
Grieving a friendship is valid. Letting go can hurt, even when it’s the right thing to do.
You don’t need to earn love. Healthy relationships are mutual, not transactional.
Boundaries protect your peace. The only people upset by them are the ones who benefited from your lack of them.
You co-create every relationship you’re in. Own your part, grow from it, and choose from your authentic self-loving, self-caring heart.
You can be your own best friend. It’s the most authentic empowering, grounding friendship you’ll ever know.
________________________________________
Quote of the Episode:
"Friendship is what it feels like, not what it looks like."
________________________________________
Episode Resources & Mentions:
Brene Brown’s work on empathy, shame, and vulnerability
The emotional concept of Schadenfreude vs. Freudenfreude
Coaching reflections on people-pleasing and emotional boundaries
Instagram post referenced from “We’re Your Girls” podcast
The Irish term Anam Cara – “soul friend”
 
Find out more at www.pacoaching.co.uk or email me hello@pacoaching.co.uk to book a 1:1 discovery call to find out more about mental fitness and improving your wellbeing and relationships
 

Faking It

From Faking It to Living Authentically: Embracing Your True Self
Episode Overview:
In today’s episode, Patricia takes you through her transformative journey of healing, self-discovery, and the shift from faking it to living authentically. Reflecting on personal conversations with friends who’ve witnessed her inner transformation, Patricia dives deep into how our perceptions shape the way we see others and ourselves. She shares powerful insights on overcoming self-doubt, healing emotional wounds, and embracing your true essence.
Key Topics Covered:
Emotional Healing & Self-Awareness: Patricia discusses the importance of healing emotional wounds to create deeper connections and see others for who they truly are. She touches on the role of self-awareness and emotional regulation in personal growth.
Self-Doubt and Imposter Syndrome: Patricia opens up about battling imposter syndrome and how her journey in coaching helped her recognise and realise her innate self-worth. She highlights the pivotal moment when she realised that success doesn’t bring happiness—happiness brings success, a deep and profound finding from positive psychology research.
The Power of Self-Love: Explore how self-love is the foundation for lasting transformation and inner fulfilment. Patricia shares how embracing your authentic self leads to an abundance of opportunities, both personally and professionally.
Perception vs. Reality: Patricia shares stories of friends who saw her in a particular light, despite the inner struggles she faced and hid. She reveals how we often don’t see people as they are but as we are, illustrating this concept through the Iceberg Theory.
Transformation Through Reconnection: Dive into how true transformation isn’t about changing who you are, but is a reconnecting with your authentic self. Patricia shares the powerful idea that true change happens when we shed the roles and conditioning that mask our true essence.
From Faking It to Being Authentic: The episode reflects on the popular phrase "Fake it till you make it", and how Patricia now views it not as pretending, but it can be a stepping stone towards authenticity.
Key Insights:
You are not defined by the roles you play in life. True fulfilment comes from embracing your authentic self.
Emotional healing and self-awareness are key to overcoming the barriers that hold you back from realising your true potential.
Self-love and self-compassion are powerful tools for shifting from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.
Living authentically means letting go of the need for external validation and reconnecting with your true essence.
Success follows naturally when you focus on being true to yourself and align your actions with your values.
Resources Mentioned:
The Iceberg Theory (Video): Watch here
Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk on Confidence & Body Language: Watch here
Join the Journey to Emotional Freedom:
If you’re ready to embark on your own transformation and move beyond self-doubt, reach out. Patricia is here to support you in embracing your authentic self and finding lasting happiness and fulfillment, becoming more mentally fit and emotionally resilient.
 
get in touch via website www.pacoaching.co.uk
or email Patricia hello@pacoaching.co.uk
for a free 1 hour no obligation call to discuss how mental fitness can help you
 

Emotional Manipulation

Recognizing and Overcoming Emotional Manipulation
Episode Summary
In this powerful episode, Patricia explores the complex world of emotional manipulation, what it is, how to recognise it, and most importantly, how to protect yourself through mental fitness, positive and emotional intelligence. In this episode Patricia shares a very personal story of when she believes she was emotionally manipulated and persuaded into joining a very expensive business mentorship program, and she offers valuable insights from her experience and her coaching research.
Key Points Covered
Understanding Emotional Manipulation
Definition: Emotional manipulation is a form of psychological control using subtle, deceptive tactics to influence another person's thoughts, feelings, or behaviours
Common tactics: Lying, making excuses, selective truth-telling, blame-shifting, exaggeration, and generalisation
Thomas Sowell quote: "When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear."
Real-World Examples
Paul Frampton: A brilliant physicist who fell victim to an online romance scam that led to his imprisonment for drug smuggling
Moira Stuart: Despite believing she was so aware of scams, was manipulated by someone claiming to be from her bank, into visiting her bank to redraw and transfer money. It was the bank clerk who prevented her from being scammed.
These stories demonstrate that anyone, regardless of intellectual intelligence, can fall prey to manipulation and persuasion of varying degrees.
Red Flags of Emotional Manipulation
Pressure tactics creating unnecessary urgency or anxiety
Emotionally charged stories and promises
Money-back guarantees with impossible conditions
Association with celebrities or industry leaders to establish credibility
"Their way is the RIGHT way or the ONLY WAY" mentality
Three Elements of Manipulation
Blame shifting: The manipulator avoids taking accountability
Gaslighting: Makes you question your perception of events and reality
Emotional abuse: Includes coercion, criticism, threats, and lying
Building Protection Through Mental Fitness
Mental fitness helps build resilience and balance between analytical and emotional thinking
It is not a changing process but a reconnection process with your "Sage within", your intuitive, wise self
Balancing left and right brain hemisphere for better decision-making
Finding the Gift in Difficult Experiences
Mental fitness helps find gifts and opportunities in challenges and Patricia shares her gift.
Reference to Michael Caine's wise advice: "Use the difficulty"
Paul Frampton's reflection on his imprisonment: gained valuable insight into human nature
Building resilience allows you to grow from difficult experiences
Practical Steps for Listeners
Commit to personal growth and empowerment
Practice regular journaling for self-expression
Write daily self-love notes or positive affirmations
Set and maintain healthy boundaries
Learn to say "no" without guilt
Profound Quotes to Remember
"Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness." Katherine Henson
"When you become master of your mind, you are master of everything."
"If you don't control your mind, someone else will." John Allston
"Emotional manipulators choose their prey – and they do not target people who are empowered from the inside out."
"To seek is only human, but to seek wisely is always a smart idea." - Sarah Edmondson
Resources Mentioned
Sarah Edmondson's TED Talk: "How to Spot a Cult"
Sarah Edmondson's book: "Becoming Cult Literate"
Paul Frampton's book: "Tricked"
Michael Caine's autobiography: "Blowing the Bloody Doors Off"
Carl Rogers' work on egalitarian therapeutic relationships
Contact Patricia on hello@pacoaching.co.uk www.pacoaching.co.uk
 

Imposter Syndrome

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome & Perfectionism – A Journey to Self-Acceptance
Episode Overview: In this deeply reflective episode, Patricia shares a poetic story about her personal battle with imposter syndrome and perfectionism in her professional career. From feeling like a fraud despite external success to embracing the power of self-acceptance, Patricia explores how these limiting beliefs impacted her mental and emotional health and well-being. She also discusses how she gradually learned to replace fear of failure with self-compassion, which allowed her to finally believe in her self-worth and embrace progress over perfection.
Key Themes:
Imposter Syndrome: A phenomenon where high-achieving individuals feel like frauds, despite evidence of their success. Patricia shares her personal experience and how she had a constant sense of self-doubt, and fear of making mistakes. Never feeling “good enough” with a debilitating fear of being “found out”.
Perfectionism Trap: The stickler saboteur. Patricia discusses how striving for perfection created unrealistic standards and feelings of inadequacy. The relentless pursuit of flawlessness fuelled constant anxiety and stress that and eventually led to burn out.
The Pleaser Saboteur: Constantly trying to meet others' expectations while neglecting our own needs. Patricia explores how this sabotaged her ability to say "no" and led to overwork and self-sacrifice.
Fear of Failure: How the fear of not measuring up, either to others or to her own high standards, created an ongoing cycle of stress, anxiety, and self-doubt.
Self-Worth & Self-Acceptance: A journey from feeling inadequate to embracing self-love. Patricia shares how learning to embrace failure and rejection as part of growth led her to redefine success as a process of improvement, not perfection.
Highlights:
Understanding Imposter Syndrome: Patricia dives into the psychological experience of imposter syndrome and the feelings of inadequacy that persist even when there’s clear evidence of success. Patricia shares how learning about imposter syndrome helped her realise that she wasn’t alone in her feelings.
The Story Behind the Poem: Patricia reflects on my early career, as she recounts a funny but embarrassing story of typing "baloney" instead of "below knee cast," and how an error as simple as this only compounded her feelings of fraudulence. Patricia explains how mistakes for her younger self were seen as proof of incompetence rather than learning opportunities.
Perfectionism & Overwork: Patricia’s explores how perfectionism, the fear of making mistakes or not being perfect enough, can cause physical and emotional burnout. By constantly overworking and ignoring personal needs, she neglected her health, which ultimately led to burnout.
Growth & Resilience: Over time, Patricia learned that overcoming imposter syndrome isn’t just about receiving external validation or praise; it’s about internal validation. By embracing her worth and learning to praise herself, she found the courage to grow and face challenges head-on.
Self-Empowerment & Inner Validation: Patricia discusses how shifting from a need for external validation to developing internal self-validation led her to embrace mistakes and imperfections as part of the journey of life, for all of us.
Practical Tips for Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Patricia offers strategies for managing self-doubt and perfectionism, including:
o Embrace failure and mistakes as part of growth.
o Celebrate every small achievement you make towards self-love.
o Practice self-compassion and empathy daily.
o Learn to let go of the debilitating need for external validation.
The Importance of Self-Awareness: Patricia explain how understanding and recognising the underlying drivers of imposter syndrome, such as perfectionism, from the pleaser and stickler saboteur, and fear of failure, are crucial steps in breaking free from this limiting mindset.
Takeaways:
Recognise the Saboteurs: Whether it's the perfectionist, pleaser, or the inner critic (judge), understanding the saboteurs at play in your mind is key to managing imposter syndrome. Coaching in Positive Intelligence can help with this process.
Self-Worth Is Not Defined by Perfection: True success comes from self-awareness, growth, and the willingness to keep moving forward, not from achieving an impossible standard of perfection.
Mental Fitness & Resilience: Building resilience through self-compassion, embracing mistakes, and seeking progress over perfection allows you to thrive in both your personal and professional life.
Relevant Resources:
The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women by Dr. Valerie Young: A book that explores the five subtypes of imposter syndrome and how to thrive despite it.
Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes’ Research on Imposter Syndrome: Foundational work on imposter syndrome, especially in high-achieving women. The Imposter Phenomenon in High-Achieving Women (1978): A research paper that explains the psychological experiences of imposter syndrome and its impact on women in the workplace.
Conclusion:
In this episode, Patricia hopes to inspire anyone struggling with imposter syndrome or perfectionism to recognise that their worth is not defined by external achievements or societal expectations. The journey to self-acceptance and self-love is ongoing, but with each small step, we can break free from the chains of self-doubt and embrace our true potential.
Reach out to Patricia via email hello@pacoaching.co.uk if you would like to find out more.
 
Email Patricia on hello@pacoaching.co.uk to book a 1 hour discovery session
 

ODE TO DOUBT

Overcoming Self-Doubt, Building Confidence & Embracing Fear
In today’s episode, Patricia explores how self-doubt affects our lives and how to overcome it. We discuss the relationship between fear, confidence, and self-belief, and how understanding and managing fear can lead to personal growth and empowerment.
Key Topics:
What is Doubt?
Exploring the meaning of self-doubt and how it impacts our decisions and mindset. We also discuss how skepticism and negative thoughts feed into self-doubt.
Comfort Zone vs. Growth:
The comfort zone may feel safe, but it limits growth. Stepping outside this zone is essential for developing creativity, resilience, and self-belief.
Fear as a Survival Mechanism:
Understanding fear as part of our natural survival instinct. It’s not about eliminating fear, but about managing it to prevent it from holding us back.
Building Confidence:
Self-belief and confidence are powerful antidotes to self-doubt. Learn how to shift your mindset and strengthen your inner resilience to overcome fear and doubt.
The Power of Faith from Others:
The impact of encouragement and support from others. A personal story highlights how the belief of a loved one can ignite confidence and help you break free from self-doubt.
Mental Fitness Coaching:
Discover how mental fitness coaching can help you face fear, manage doubt, and cultivate emotional resilience and self-trust.
Letting Go of Doubt:
Releasing doubt is crucial for personal growth. Embrace the high road to freedom and growth, letting go of fear and stepping into your full potential.
ACRYCOMS around FEAR
'Forget Everything And Run'
or
'Face Everything And Rise. '
The options are there and the choice is always yours.
Key Quotes:
“The only limit to our realisation of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you.” – Walt Whitman
It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe. Mohammad Ali
I don’t fix problems I fix my thinking then the problems fix themselves. Louise Hay
book a free 1 hour session via email hello@pacoaching.co.uk
 

Bees Knees

Embracing Self-Love & SAGE Energy with My Mum
In today’s episode, Patricia discusses, how her self-love journey, rooted in SAGE energy, positively impacted her relationship with her mother. She shares how her mum, at 88 years old, is embracing self-care and shifting her mindset from self-sabotage to positive self-talk. Patricia highlights the power of kind words, self-compassion, and how they can improve our well-being, health, and overall energy.
Key Highlights:
Self-Love & Empowerment: How self-love can transform relationships and mental well-being.
SAGE Energy: Patricia shares how adopting a SAGE mindset, self-awareness, compassion, and empowerment, helps to replace self-criticism with kindness.
The Impact of Language: Speaking kindly to yourself and others fosters a healthier, more positive life.
Personal Stories: Patricia recounts a touching and humorous moment with her mum as they bonded over a sprained foot and practiced positive self-talk.
Mind-Body Connection: How words influence our bodies, including scientific studies on plants thriving with kind words and suffering from negative ones.
Practical Tips: Simple steps to cultivate self-compassion, including daily affirmations and mindfulness about how we speak to ourselves.
Takeaways:
Be Gentle with Yourself: Learning to speak kindly to your body and mind is a powerful act of self-care.
Shift Negative Self-Talk: Replace self-criticism with empowering language to build a positive mindset.
Lead by Example: Show kindness to yourself and others, especially in challenging times.
Resources:
Research on Words & Stress: Studies linking negative words to stress and illness (Gabor Maté and others).
Personal Growth: More on shifting from self-sabotage to self-love in future episodes.
Study DO WORDS HURT? https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0304395909004564
Book by Gabor Mate - When the body says no
Samantha Petralgia study :
https://www.cbsnews.com/newyork/news/bullied-plants-project-bullying-samantha-petraglia-long-island-coalition-against-bullying/
 
IKEA study (video):
https://www.cbsnews.com/newyork/news/bullied-plants-project-bullying-samantha-petraglia-long-island-coalition-against-bullying/
 
Actionable Steps:
Self-Love Practice: Each day, choose one body part to connect to with tender loving attention and choose to speak kindly to that part, and your whole body, acknowledging and appreciating the complexity of all the various parts.
Journaling Exercise: Write about your relationship with that body part and explore how it feels to speak kindly to it. Start with small steps. Choose to be your body’s best friend.
email hello@pacoaching.co.uk to book free 1 hour coaching session
 
 

The Beautiful Young Girl in Me

Overcoming Childhood Conditioning & The Pleaser Saboteur
In this episode, I explore how childhood programming may unconsciously fuel negative patterns in our adult lives, due to our perceptions. The focus is on the Pleaser Saboteur, a program that can manifest as people-pleasing tendencies, driven by a fear of rejection and a deep need for love, acceptance and validation. I delve into:
Understanding childhood conditioning and how early experiences shape our behaviours.
The empowering strength of empathy and sensitivity, which underpin the Pleaser Saboteur, and how overdoing these strengths can lead to debilitating patterns of behaviour and emotional depletion.
The impact of the Pleaser Saboteur on self-worth and the development of unhealthy relationship dynamics.
The importance of self-love and self-empathy in healing negative patterns and building emotional intelligence.
NLP and Timeline Therapy: Techniques that can help reconnect with the younger self and reprogram beliefs that are now hindering us in adult life.
The difference between conditional and unconditional love, and how to cultivate authentic self-love without expectations.
By the end of this episode, I hope listeners will be inspired to reconnect with their own childhood self, offering them compassion and unconditional love, while also gaining tools to break free from people-pleasing behaviours.
I’d also like to recommend a powerful video that can support you in your journey of healing. It’s a 1990 Oprah Winfrey episode where John Bradshaw, a pioneering counsellor, takes the audience through an exercise that opens the door to healing from childhood trauma link here: Watch the video.
I realised that it’s up to me to understand and love myself now. I accept myself and my 8-year-old self just the way I am. I know that I can now be the senior my younger self never had, embracing her humour, her playfulness, her creative side, so that I can go out and thrive, not just survive in saboteur mode, but I can thrive in Sage mode.
Phylicia Rashad once said, "Before a child speaks, they sing. Before they write, they paint. As soon as they stand, they dance. Art is the basis of human expression." I believe it’s never too late to reconnect with that childhood self and rediscover the joy of singing, painting, writing, dancing, or whatever it is that allows you to reconnect with your inner imaginative, creative being.
I now know I am a spiritual, creative being having a human experience, and my childhood self has played a key role in helping me learn this.
I invite you to consider being the senior you needed when you were younger. If and when you decide to reconnect with that younger self, I hope you can build a beautiful life together, just as I have done.
To practice building self-love:
Continue to build on what I mentioned last week, keep cultivating that foundational awareness, respect, and appreciation for you and now for your younger self. We were all created uniquely. Your childhood self has her unique fingerprint, her unique brain design. Celebrate that. Celebrate them.
In your journal, think of your childhood self at any age of your choosing. Write to them, what would you say?
Rumi, the Persian poet, said, “If everything around seems dark, look again, you may be the light.”
My 8-year-old self is certainly now my light.
By embracing your younger self, you can rediscover what unconditional self-love truly feels like.
Remember look after yourself and look after your younger self, you are both worthy of love.
 
When you are ready to reconnect with your childhood self and grow together in self love, you can book in a 1 hour fee, no obligation, session to discuss how I can help facilitate this. To connect email me hello@pacoaching.co.uk
 
www.pacoaching.co.uk
 
 

Love Letter to Self

The Power of Self-Love: Reconnecting with Your True Essence In this episode, Patricia dives deep into the transformative power of self-love and shares how she understands it to be the greatest foundation to build a fulfilled happy life.
Patricia starts by reflecting on the heartfelt Rumi quote, "Why are you knocking at every other door? Go, knock at the door of your own heart," and then shares her journey of when she decided to knock on the door of her own heart, developing and practicing self-love. She explores why society often labels self-love as selfish and how she believes this idea is fundamentally flawed.
Patricia shares the backstory behind the writing of her poetic story "Love Letter to Self," written during the isolation of Covid-19, and how the act of buying herself flowers became a powerful symbol of worthiness through the practice of self-love. Through this poem and her journey, she discusses how shifting from external validation to internal self-respect has helped her grow in profound ways. Plus, she reveals how Positive Intelligence and mental fitness, especially through the practice of empathy, can rebuild the connection with our true selves.
Patricia also shares her learnings around “ego” from the Brahma Kumaris, World Spiritual University and how embracing self-love, not as ego but as a life-enhancing practice, can empower you to make healthier choices, set healthy boundaries, and build resilience.
She explores the importance of self-compassion, especially when dealing with toxic relationships, and shares how understanding the difference between ego-driven love and self-value and respect can shape a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Key Takeaways:
• Self-love is NOT selfish; it’s an essential act of self-preservation.
• Recognising the inner "Pleaser" saboteur programme and learning to manage it is key to healthy self-love.
• Mental fitness and empathy help us tap into our “Sage powers” and reconnect with our true essence.
• Understanding the difference between self-love and ego can help you build a foundation of unconditional self-compassion.
• Real life transformations happen when you start with the powerful practice of self-awareness, self-appreciation and acceptance. In this episode Patricia explores;
• Why we’re conditioned to believe self-love is selfish
• The importance of understanding self-love beyond ego and vanity
• A glimpse into her personal transformation
• How the "Love Letter to Self" poem was created and its healing power
• The role of Positive Intelligence in overcoming self-sabotage
• Learning how to embrace your unique essence and start your self-love journey today Resources Mentioned:
• Miley Cyrus’ song “Flowers” (Embracing self-love through song lyrics)
• Wayne Dyer's philosophy on self-worth and loneliness. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with”.
• Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116 and its inspiring relevance to Love Letter to Self
• Positive Intelligence – A book by Shirzad Chamine (Building mental fitness with
Sage love to overcome our self-sabotaging saboteur voices) Remember: "When you get to understand, know and love yourself, you will never be alone."
Actionable Tips:
1. Reflect on three qualities you love about yourself and their positive impact on your life.
2. Practice self-compassion by becoming of and addressing your internal saboteurs voices with empathy.
Next week teaser:
Join Patricia next week with her mindful poetic story called “The beautiful young girl in me”, when she dives deeper into the Pleaser saboteur and shares how reconnecting with her younger, childhood, self enhanced and deepened her practice of self-love,
Get in contact via my website; www.pacoaching.co.uk
 

Call The Self Love Police

Exploring Intelligence;
Unveiling the Power of Positive Intelligence In this thought-provoking episode, Patricia delves into the multifaceted nature of intelligence and explores how understanding different types of intelligence can lead to personal growth and enhanced awareness, and in particular she shares more about positive intelligence which underpins mental fitness.
Key Topics:
1. Expanding the Definition of Intelligence o Moving beyond traditional IQ to explore multiple forms of intelligence o Introduction to Emotional, Social, Positive, Creative, and Spiritual Intelligence
2. The Impact of Artificial Intelligence o Reflecting on the rapid growth of AI and its potential effects on human roles o Balancing technological advancements with nurturing human capabilities
3. Positive Intelligence (PQ) and Mental Fitness o Understanding PQ as a measure of mental fitness o Exploring the concept of self sabotaging Saboteurs and our wise inner Sage o How PQ encompasses and enhances other forms of intelligence
4. The Importance of Human Connection o Insights from the book "The Good Life" – Lessons from the world's longest study on happiness o Why strong relationships are crucial for a long happy and fulfilling life
5. Personal Growth Journey o Patricia shares her experience with developing different intelligences o How coaching and mental fitness have improved her wellbeing, performance, and her relationship with self and others
6. Protect your Positive Energy "An entire sea of water can't sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Goi Nasu. Similarly, the negativity of the world can't put you down unless you allow it to get inside you."
Memorable Quotes:
• "Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited; imagination encircles the world." - Albert Einstein
• "The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth they can accept about themselves without running away." Leland Val Van De Wall
Call to Action:
Reflect on the different types of intelligence in your life. Use your journal for noting down your thoughts and the things that most resonated with you. How can you nurture your positive, emotional, social, and creative intelligence to enhance your mental fitness and your relationship with yourself? Tune in for Next Episode:
Stay tuned for the upcoming episode "Love Letter to Self," where Patricia will share her personal journey to self-love and how Positive Intelligence has helped build a stronger foundation of self-empathy and unconditional self-compassion.
More about Positive Intelligence: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/
Book Recommendations: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
The Good Life- Lessons from the World's Longest Study on Happiness by Marc S. Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger
Get in contact via my website www.pacoaching.co.uk
 
 

Self Talk - I Am

The Power of "I AM" and Rewriting Your Inner Story In this episode, Patricia explores how, many of us are disconnected from our true essence, the “I AM,” due to limiting beliefs and negative self-talk. Patricia shares her personal journey of overcoming self-doubt and discovering the power of language, across cultures, particularly with the phrase "I AM." She also discusses the impact of our perceptions when growing up, from our school days and societal conditioning, on our sense of self-worth.
 
Key highlights:
• Power of the “I AM”; The importance of reconnecting with your true self through the power of the "I am."
• Perceptions and School Days: Patricia reflects on her school experiences growing up in Ireland, the judgments that shaped her self-perception, and how she eventually broke free from the belief that she was "not brainy" or "not creative." She explores how language can shape our inner story and beliefs, often limiting us without realising it.
• The Victim Mentality: Exploring how we unknowingly program ourselves into victimhood through the negative stories and beliefs we form early in life.
• Patricia shares her transformative experience with the Brahma Kumaris, The World Spiritual University, which helped her begin her journey of spiritual growth.
• Practical coaching exercise: Reflect on the "I AM" statements you tell yourself and evaluate whether they are true, helpful, and empowering.
• The concept of intelligence and how it’s often misunderstood as purely academic. Patricia introduces intelligence beyond academics, touching on the various other types of intelligence like emotional, creative, spiritual, and more, that go beyond intellectual capability and how understanding these can unlock a more fulfilling life.
Key Takeaways:
• Our perceptions are often not a true reflection of who we are but are stories we internalise from external influences.
• Language is not just a means of communication but a tool of self-definition. Being mindful of how we speak to ourselves can transform our sense of self.
• There is a diamond within each of us, a core of true potential that can become clouded by limiting beliefs. With self-awareness and positive language, we can begin to "shine" from the inside out. Recommendations and Journal Prompts:
• Take time to pause to reflect on your inner language and reframe limiting beliefs.
• Practice self-compassion and forgiveness to release the power of past judgments.
• Consider the many forms of intelligence and start honouring your own unique strengths.
Find out more about
Brahma Kumaris https://www.brahmakumaris.org/
Find out more about Positive Intelligence https://www.positiveintelligence.com/
 
If you found this episode insightful, please leave a review, subscribe and share it with someone who might benefit from this message.
Join Patricia next week as she continues this transformative journey with her poetic story "Call the Self Love Police" as she dives deeper into the concept of positive intelligence, a key element of mental fitness, and how building self-love and self-care into our daily practice helps us build a strong inner stable foundation, which is key to finding true happiness and fulfilment.