Mindful Poetic Stories Podcast

Where Does The Time Go - PART 2

Time, Energy & Self-Love: Turning Crisis into Clarity
In this deeply reflective and empowering Part 2 episode of Where Does The Time Go, Patricia explores the profound value of time, energy, and health, and how these three life currencies shape our wellbeing, success, and happiness. Drawing on insights from Jay Shetty, Elizabeth Gilbert, Deepak Chopra, Eckhart Tolle, Bronnie Ware, and Bonnie Annis, this episode is a heartfelt call to action to stop waiting for crisis to teach you what really matters.
From self-sabotage to self-love, this episode encourages you to take back control of your time, redirect your energy, and make conscious choices for long-term wellness, inner peace, and personal empowerment. With personal reflections, coaching wisdom, and inspiring quotes, this is your invitation to live intentionally, love fully, and embrace your unique purpose.
Key Topics Discussed:
Why time is your most valuable currency
The myth of “I don’t have time” and how to shift that mindset
How health, wealth, and time evolve throughout life
Powerful lessons from palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware
Reflections on cancer, resilience, and living without regret
The difference between working hard and working with purpose
How to live from your inner Sage (not your Saboteur)
Insights from positive psychology, spirituality, and mental fitness
Cultivating self-love, emotional regulation, and personal power
Resources Mentioned:
Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware
Before You Waste Your Time – Watch This by Jay Shetty YouTube
The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra
Positive Intelligence Shirzad Chamine
Blog: “Cancer hanged me for the better” Bonnie Annis
Connect & Reflect:
What’s one way you can invest your time better today?
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Where Does The Time Go - PART 1

Time, Energy & the Sage Within – Living with Intention
In this reflective and empowering episode, Patricia explores two transformative themes: Time and Energy. Drawing from personal insights, coaching experiences, and ancient wisdom, she shares how understanding and protecting these vital resources can help listeners live more intentionally, overcome self-sabotage, and thrive from within.
Listeners will be inspired to:
Reevaluate how they spend their time
Recognise energy drainers
Tap into their inner Sage
Practice mindfulness and intentional living
Let go of limiting beliefs
From referencing Einstein’s theory of relativity to Jay Shetty’s views on time, and Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, this episode is packed with thought-provoking questions and life lessons for anyone seeking to live a happier, healthier, and more purpose-driven life.
Resources Mentioned:
Jay Shetty youtube video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k5y3_4jOLjI
Gemma Curtis https://www.dreams.co.uk/sleep-matters-club/your-life-in-numbers-infographic
Book - The Untethered Soul – Michael A. Singer
Book - Super Brain – Deepak Chopra & Rudolph Tanzi
Positive Intelligence https://positiveintelligence.com/
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Top Quotes:
"Time is free, but it’s priceless – once it’s lost, you can never get it back."
"Protect your energy. Use your time like the precious currency it is."
"It isn't the mountain ahead to climb that wears you out; it's the pebble in your shoe"
 
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The Old Me Farewell

Letting Go of the Old Self: A Journey of Inner Transformation
 
In this deeply personal and powerful episode, Patricia explores the transformative journey of letting go of the parts of ourselves that no longer serve us. From the inner struggle with saboteur self sabotage influence to cultivating radical self-love, this conversation is an honest reflection on how true healing begins with awareness, forgiveness, and compassion.
Patricia shares insights from her own life and coaching experience, sharing some inner dialogue that holds us back, and how to shift into a place of empowerment, presence, and purpose.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
The emotional death that comes with personal change
How inner saboteurs like the Judge, Pleaser, Avoider, and Victim operate
The power of neuroplasticity and mindset rewiring
Releasing limiting beliefs and embracing your authentic self
Replacing fear with self-worth, gratitude, and unconditional love
Learning to live not as a servant of your mind, but its master
🔥 Quote Spotlight:
“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” Lao Tzu
“An arrogant person considers himself perfect. This is the chief harm of arrogance. It interferes with a person’s main task in life – becoming a better person.” Leo Tolstoy
"The important thing is to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are, for what we could become." Charles Dickens
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us." Marianne Williamson
💬 3 Powerful Takeaways:
Awareness is the first step to transformation – become the detective of your thoughts.
Daily forgiveness and gratitude fuel healing and growth.
Speak to yourself with love, as you would to a child.
Featured Concepts & Mentions:
Positive Intelligence founded by Shirzad Chamine
Poem Invictus by William Ernest Henley
Movie - Coach Carter
Emotional overthinking saboteurs vs. the intuitive Sage
Self-command and rewiring habitual thought patterns
Healing childhood self and self-compassion work
Episode reference: Ep. 1 – Welcome To Me
🎧 Whether you're navigating a life transition, stuck in old patterns, or simply ready to step into your full potential, letting go of the old parts of you that are holding you back this episode is for you.
 
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The Same Old Story

The Power of the Pause: How Mental Fitness Transforms Emotional Reactions into Empowered Responses
In this powerful episode, Patricia dives deep into the stories that live in our minds, the ones that hold us back, trigger our emotional reactions, and influence how we show up in the world. From understanding the difference between emotional reactions and responses, to learning how mental fitness and positive intelligence can help us navigate life’s inevitable curveballs, this conversation offers real, transformative insights.
You’ll learn how outdated beliefs from our past shape our present behaviours, and how coaching, especially when rooted in the work of thought leaders like Timothy Gallwey and Shirzad Chamine, can support deep personal growth.
The heart of this episode is all about The Power of the Pause: in what Viktor Frankl called the space between stimulus and response, where true growth, empowerment, and healing begin.
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What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
💡 How old internal stories and belief systems drive our emotional reactions
💡 The difference between feelings and emotions, and why it matters
💡 Why mental fitness is a trainable skill, just like physical fitness
💡 The role of saboteurs in self-sabotage and how to shift into your inner Sage
💡 The neuroscience behind emotional triggers and how to rewire your brain
💡 Why your triggers are actually powerful messengers for healing
💡 How the “Power of the Pause” is a revolutionary tool for reclaiming self-care, self-love and conscious choice
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Key Takeaways:
Mental Fitness is Trainable – You can build emotional strength and resilience just like a muscle, and begin shifting out of reactivity through practices rooted in awareness.
Triggers are Teachers – Emotional triggers are not your enemy, they’re signposts to healing. They help you meet and soothe the younger version of you that still seeks love and validation.
Self-Love is the most stable Foundation; Living from self-respect, self-trust, and inner worth is a revolutionary act that rewrites your inner story and transforms how you face life’s challenges.
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Featured Concepts & Mentions:
The Inner Game of Tennis by Timothy Gallwey
Positive Intelligence founded by Shirzad Chamine
Quote from Epictetus: “It’s not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters.”
Viktor Frankl: “Between stimulus and response there is a space…”
Emotional overthinking saboteurs vs. the intuitive Sage
Self-command and rewiring habitual thought patterns
Healing childhood self and self-compassion work
Yasmina Floyer, Writer, https://www.instagram.com/yasfloyer/
Episode reference: Ep. 16 – Blind Men and the Elephant
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Quotes Worth Remembering:
“You can turn your triggers into glimmers that glow with learnings and hope for a happier future.”
“You are not your triggers. They are messengers, your greatest teachers toward self-awareness.”
“When you pause, you create a sacred space within. In that space, you reclaim your power. THAT is a revolutionary act.”
 
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Dedicated To You All - Thank You

From the Train of Life – Embracing Vulnerability, Rejection, Boundaries & Self-Love
 
In this heartfelt episode, Patricia shares a deeply personal reflection on the power of vulnerability, healing from rejection, and the transformative journey toward self-acceptance and emotional resilience. With gratitude to her listeners, she reflects on the courage it takes to share real and relatable stories, exploring how her past fears and inner critic once held her back, and how coaching helped her overcome self-sabotage to discover her true purpose.
Using the beautiful metaphor of “The Train of Life,” Patricia weaves poetic storytelling, life lessons, and reflections on love, loss, and emotional growth. She honours the people, both supportive and challenging, who have shaped her journey through life. Patricia offers insights on:
Overcoming fear of vulnerability and rejection
Emotional healing through self-compassion and mindfulness
Setting healthy boundaries with love and respect
The importance of forgiveness and letting go
Understanding difficult relationships and embracing growth
Mental fitness, positive intelligence, and inner peace
She also shares impactful influence encouraging listeners to embrace emotional authenticity and transform pain into purpose.
Links:
Brene Brown’s The Power of Vulnerability TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
 
James Tippett’s The Train of Life poem, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yXwPAdrPM8
 
Patricia’s message is clear: when we love ourselves unconditionally, we reclaim our power, protect our energy, and cultivate stronger, more meaningful connections. Every person on our path teaches us something, and no encounter is ever wasted.
Embrace your life. Embrace your teachers. Embrace your life lessons.
And Patricia thanks you all for being on her journey with her
 
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Blossoming of the Black Sheep PART 2

In Part 2 of Blossoming Of The Black Sheep, Patricia explores the powerful intersection between being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), empathy, and generational trauma, and how these influence brain function, emotional responses, and personal identity. Drawing on the research of Dr. Elaine Aron, Dr. Gabor Maté, and Dr. Bianca Jones Marlin, the episode offers a compassionate lens on how sensitivity and trauma may shape individuals across generations, affecting both children and adults alike.
Listeners will learn about:
The D.O.E.S traits of HSPs: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotional Reactivity, and Sensitivity to Subtleties
The evolutionary and neurological basis of sensitivity, including findings from animal studies
The emerging science of epigenetics and how trauma can be biologically inherited
Tools for emotional regulation, self-acceptance, and mental fitness coaching
The transformational power of compassion, empathy, and emotional self-awareness
Patricia reflects on personal experiences of being misunderstood, and using substances like food and alcohol as a coping mechanism, and ultimately finding strength and healing through embracing sensitivity. She also touches on the emotional impact of music, from her idol Alanis Morissette who is a highly sensitive person, and the importance of raising emotionally intelligent children. Patricia also shares some of her own personal reflections and opinions for you to ponder on.
Key Takeaways:
Sensitivity is not a flaw; it's a natural trait found in 20% of the population
Emotional resilience begins with self-compassion and understanding your unique nervous system
Generational trauma is real, and healing it can transform not just your life, but future generations
Mental fitness practices, such as those inspired by Positive Intelligence (PQ), can help shift from reaction to transformation
Empathy is a superpower, not a weakness, especially in a world that desperately needs more connection
Recommended Resources:
The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron
Sensitive: The Untold Story (documentary)
Sensitive is the New Strong by Anita Moorjani
Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Maté
Research by Dr. Bianca Jones Marlin on trauma inheritance
Teachings from Alanis Morissette, Pema Chödrön, Brené Brown, and Deepak Chopra
Call to Action:
Listeners are invited to reflect:
Are you a reflector, absorber, or transformer of emotional energy?
Choose compassion. Choose curiosity. And most importantly, choose you.
 
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Blossoming of the Black Sheep PART 1

What if being the “black sheep” was never something to fix, but something to honor?
In Part 1 of this deeply personal 2-part series, Patricia explores what it means to stop quitting on ourselves, even in our darkest chapters. From the emotional weight of judgment, criticism, and blame, to growing up in emotionally repressive environments, this episode shines a light on the misunderstood experience of being sensitive, different, and deeply aware.
Inspired by The Banshees of Inisherin, this episode uncovers how emotional suppression, loneliness, and trauma often shape our self-worth, and how healing begins when we choose curiosity over criticism and compassion over control.
Topics Covered:
Reclaiming the “black sheep” identity
Emotional suppression, shame & sensitivity
The hidden cost of judgment, criticism & blame
Growing up in Ireland under stigma & silence
How kindness and self-love shift the nervous system
Key Phrases for SEO:
emotional healing, black sheep identity, self-love journey, inner critic, trauma awareness, mental health podcast, generational pain, healing shame, sensitivity is strength
Listener Reflection:
What if your deepest pain isn’t a flaw to fix, but a signpost toward who you really are?
Next Week (Part 2 Teaser):
We go deeper into being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), the science of generational trauma, and how brain-based healing tools and cultivating unconditional self love can help you come home to yourself.
Final Note:
Thank you for showing up. Thank you for staying curious. And thank you for being part of this movement toward deeper understanding, compassion, connection, and self love.
 
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Blind Men and The Elephant

In this powerful and thought-provoking episode, Patricia explores the timeless parable The Blind Men and the Elephant, originally penned poetically by 19th century American poet John Godfrey Saxe, and used as a metaphor for personal development, emotional intelligence, and coaching. Drawing from psychology, coaching frameworks, and personal stories, Patricia examines how limited perspectives, unhealed distress and trauma, and entrenched beliefs can create conflict in our relationships and within ourselves.
This episode invites you to look inward, uncover your blind spots, and triggers and understand how coaching and self-awareness can transform not just your mindset, but your entire life.
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Key Topics Covered
The origin and meaning of The Blind Men and the Elephant
Why human perception is flawed and subjective
How coaching helps uncover blind spots and self-sabotaging patterns
Emotional triggers and the impact of unhealed pain
Language habits and their energetic impact
The "Performance – Interference = Potential" coaching equation
How beliefs shape our reality and emotional responses
Real-life examples from coaching sessions and personal growth
The importance of open-mindedness and growth mindset
How to reframe limiting beliefs with practical tools
 
Notable Quotes
“When you believe something is true, you literally go into the state of its being true.” – Tony Robbins
“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” – Stephen R. Covey
“People are strange: They are constantly angered by trivial things, but on a major matter like totally wasting their lives, they hardly seem to notice.” – Charles Bukowski
“What we resist persists.” – Carl Jung
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
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Coaching Tools & Tips Shared
Mirror work in coaching: How reflecting back to clients helps them see blind spots
Reframing exercise: How to challenge a belief by asking: Is it true? Is it helpful?
Gentle self enquiry: Being your own compassionate detective, without judgment, just curiosity and tender loving care.
The 3 R’s Framework: Recognise, Realise, Reconnect – with Positive Autonomy Coaching - a path to healing and transformation
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Call to Action
If you’re feeling stuck, defensive, or emotionally drained by recurring patterns in your life—this episode is for you. Coaching isn’t about fixing you; it’s about helping you reconnect to who you really are.
Ready to uncover your blind spots, triggers and reach your full potential? Book a free discovery call with Patricia via her website.
 
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Challenging People-Challenging Behaviours

Challenging People Challenging Behaviours
“Beyond the Behaviour: From Judgment to Understanding in Our Relationships”
 
Today in episode 15, Patricia shares her deep reflection, wisdom, and vulnerability in this transformative and thought-provoking episode, she explores the layered complexity of human behaviour, judgment, and emotional awareness. Through personal storytelling, poetic insight, and powerful analogies, Patricia takes you on a journey of moving beyond blame to build deeper, more meaningful relationships, with others and with yourself.
Discover how unconscious conditioning and childhood experiences shape our reactive patterns, why judgment fuels disconnection, and how compassion and curiosity can pave the way to healing and deeper connection. Whether you're a parent, a leader, or just someone craving healthier dynamics, this episode offers empowering mindset shifts and practical tools to move from conflict to understanding.
 
Highlights:
Intro
An invitation to reflect on how we judge vs. understand behaviour, especially in relationships.
The Pain Behind Behaviour
A personal share on how behaviours often mask pain, not personality.
The Judgment Loop
A vulnerable moment of self-awareness and the power of stopping the cycle of judgment and criticism.
Coaching Insights
How mental fitness coaching helped shift long-held inner beliefs and reactive patterns.
A Breakthrough with My Mum
A transformative phone call and the epiphany that helped change a mother-daughter dynamic.
NLP & The Positive Intention Behind Behaviour
Introduction to the NLP presupposition: “The person is not their behaviour.”
The Orange Story
A metaphor for missed understanding, intention, and conflict in relationships.
The Language of Understanding
Why how we speak matters—switching from “you are rude” to “that behaviour feels rude.”
The Power of ‘I Wonder Why’
Three simple words that shift us into curiosity and compassion.
Emotional Triggers & Autopilot Reactions
How unresolved trauma and repressed pain fuel negative reactions like road rage.
Ted Lasso Wisdom
A powerful example of being underestimated and the life-changing quote: “Be curious, not judgmental.”
Boundaries and Self-Respect
Learning to protect your peace without losing compassion.
Final Thoughts & Affirmations
Quotes, closing affirmations, and a heartfelt reminder of your unique value and power.
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Resources & Mentions:
Book: What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Dr. Bruce Perry
Podcast Episode 5: “SELF TALK – I AM”
Podcast Episode 9: “Bees Knees – A Dedication to My Mum”
Podcast Episode 12: “Emotional Manipulation”
Podcast Episode 14: “Real Friends”
Quote: Walt Whitman — “Be curious, not judgmental”
Quote: Esther Perel — “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.”
Study Mentioned: The Good Life – 80-year Harvard study on happiness
Author: Rumi – “Don’t move the way fear makes you move…”
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Episode Call to Action:
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who’s navigating difficult relationships. Leave a review or DM me on Instagram with your thoughts. I'd love to hear what stood out for you.
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Real Friends

In this deeply personal and reflective episode, Patricia explores the profound, complex, and transformative nature of friendship, how it shapes us, how it can hurt us, and how, ultimately, it can lead us back to ourselves.
Through heartfelt stories from her childhood in the Irish countryside to her adult years navigating emotional growth, boundaries, heartbreak, and healing, Patricia shares how her friendships have mirrored her inner journey, from people-pleasing and pain to empowerment and self-love.
Whether you’ve held on to lifelong friends, outgrown connections, or felt the sting of toxic dynamics, this episode is a reminder that every relationship can teach us something, and the most important friendship is the one you have with yourself.
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In This Episode, You’ll Hear:
How growing up without a “best friend” shaped Patricia’s understanding of friendship
The joy of childhood bonds and the realisation of unspoken connections
How past friendships influence our current relationships & beliefs
The grief of being left behind in friendships, and the guilt of letting go
The impact of toxic friendship dynamics and how they keep us small
How people-pleasing shows up in friendships, and how to reclaim your worth
What Schadenfreude and Freudenfreude reveal about true support
Why boundaries are key for emotional wellbeing
The meaning of Anam Cara, soul friendships, and connecting with your own soul
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Takeaways:
Friendship doesn’t always look how we expect, but it’s about how it feels.
Grieving a friendship is valid. Letting go can hurt, even when it’s the right thing to do.
You don’t need to earn love. Healthy relationships are mutual, not transactional.
Boundaries protect your peace. The only people upset by them are the ones who benefited from your lack of them.
You co-create every relationship you’re in. Own your part, grow from it, and choose from your authentic self-loving, self-caring heart.
You can be your own best friend. It’s the most authentic empowering, grounding friendship you’ll ever know.
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Quote of the Episode:
"Friendship is what it feels like, not what it looks like."
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Episode Resources & Mentions:
Brene Brown’s work on empathy, shame, and vulnerability
The emotional concept of Schadenfreude vs. Freudenfreude
Coaching reflections on people-pleasing and emotional boundaries
Instagram post referenced from “We’re Your Girls” podcast
The Irish term Anam Cara – “soul friend”
 
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